Forgive and forget ! Easier to preach than to practice, Better to practice than preach !!

To define forgiveness is easy but to understand is formidable. Psychologist generally define forgiveness as a conscious, deliberate decision to release feelings of resentment or vengeance toward a person who has harmed you regardless of weather they actually deserve your forgiveness.

Sometimes we think that it does not matter if the person deserves to be forgiven or not because what matters is if they are actually seeking for it or not. Forgiveness is called an act for self, to help you put your mind at ease, to help you come out of the stress you'v been carrying around, to make you feel light. Forgiving is hard and forgetting is harder, but the more you think about it the more gross your mind gets. Is it really that difficult to step away from the path of thorns to take a shade under a tree that takes nothing in return?

Lets try to split up the words - they say "for giving" and "for getting". The words say it all - it is to give and get in return. Let's not wait for them to apologize, let's bless them and get our mental peace back. That would fetch us the long lost smile that was just there waiting to see the world through our eyes. The forgetting part may take time but then time is an excellent healer.

कुछ इस तरह हमने ज़िन्दगी को आसान कर दिया

किसी से माफ़ी मांग ली और किसी को माफ़ कर दिया 

Also, I am not in favor of taking revenges because then you go to bed plotting, and all you are left with is those memories that you don't want to come back to you, forgetting is optional but forgiving is fulfilling.
Still if they start to come back in your head to snatch away your happiness, speak aloud :
You cannot steal my sunrises.
Today you are just a past tense !

PS : kar ke dekho accha lagta hai !! :P

Being Woman !

For anyone who is going to drop reading this assuming it to be just another article based on gender equality, let me give you a better reason for not reading it. It is not even a bit about gender equality because the fact is that this very term is a myth. It would take years if we try to fill the gap that has spawned over centuries. So this is not about Him v/s Her, its only about her. Now mister if you want, you can skip reading this and do some of your important works or even you feel a bit out of space here, I would suggest reading and not clicking the cross.

  

Let us ponder over what is Being Woman?

• It is being the apple of eyes of the family.
• It is being the helping daughter that kneads dough when the mother is unwell.
• It is being the greedy sister that marks raksha bandhan on calendar even before birthdays.
• It is being the delicate dancer that sways by the music of devotion.
• It is being the explorer of the right color all over the wardrobe only to end up picking pink.
• It is being the charm of every party.
• It is being the honor of having the door held open and chair pulled out.
• It is being the harbinger of selfless hugs.
• It is being the everyday tourist to shopping complexes.
• It is being the birth right of being right.
• It is being the phenomenon of mood swings
• It is being all this and much more, It is being the carrier of life !

Let us flip the coin now, why is most of the important works that run the economy are believed to be the responsibility of a man, he may make life easier but she makes the life. Sadly most of the times her life becomes a never ending struggle of survival for some and a regret of lost dreams for others. A woman's work is not considered important because that is something that has to be done, she was born to do the daily chores, clean the household and cook food isn't it? There is nothing to be mentioned or appreciated, but there are somethings that need to be reminded again and again,

• It is not just being a woman..... It is being the epitome of endurance.

Her entire life is a pain hidden beneath the layers of make up and colorful dresses. Funny was not the list that I made above, funny is the line that comes now... 

Do you really know what is being a woman?

• It is being the bearer of the pain and still being called the weaker sex !

Now, before you think that I am a hopeless misandrist, I should give a statement that I never said that either of the species is unimportant. Men and women complete each other, similarly I am not in an opinion that this society can anyhow work without involvement and efforts of a man but mister somewhere between getting up in the morning and going to bed again in night, at least one woman would surely have given her best effort to make things perfect for you. Respect her !!

कभी किलकारी बन कर आँगन में गूँज गयी

कभी ज़िम्मेदारी बन कर आँगन से दूर गयी

अम्मा की लाडली कभी आग से खेल गयी

बाबा की गुड़िया जाने क्या क्या झेल गयी

कभी हिना के रंग सी हाँथों पे खिल गयी

कभी के अंधेरों से लड़ती मिटटी में मिल गयी 

कभी लहरों से झगड़ती किनारे पे डेह गयी

कभी एक शिकायत सी तकिये पे बह गयी

Picture credits : https://www.facebook.com/puneet.vivid !

Things to do - 1) Do nothing.. 2) keep doing it !

Lets take a leave from our busy schedule and give some time to ourself, stand in front of the mirror and talk. Without worrying about the smudged mascara or that awful mark on your pretty face because of a stupid pimple that couldn't wait to erupt, try just talking. Instead of looking at you try to look in you. See, smile, speak, scream !!  You'v just had a day full of friends and foes like any other day. Talking, thinking, running from one place to another, being with someone and not being with someone. Exhausting ! Isn't it ? Now is the time to enjoy this company of your own. Bring some peace to your mind.
Try and talk face to face, you wouldn't lie to yourself. You can shower flying kisses to the person you see for how amazing they are or you can tell them how miserable they make your life sometimes, in any case its all coming back to you !! Unlike they say it is not called being alone, it is called transcribing your relation with yourself. Tired of the worldly issues and drama, this is when you may rediscover yourself. When you are happy with the alliance you have with yourself, only then can you build up good connections with others and guess what- the world wants you to be happy !

Next on list : do something that makes you really happy read, write, sing, dance, walk, sleep or just breathe !

You are on a leave, make the most of it.

A note !

Shreya,
you are my lifeline and sometimes my life savior
I can confess before you exactly what I feel
Because you hug me more securely every time we meet
because you can always find something appreciable in the most dumbest thing I do
because u'r always ready to listen to the never ending stories of my highs and lows
because I love watching people being jealous of our enduring bond
because you never let me feel lonely in my slough of despond
because you make me feel special by saying u can't afford to loose me
because you chain me up in your love yet you set me free
because you make sure that my reason to smile is always just a call away 
You are like a mirror to me and I see the exact me in your eyes
No biases no opinions..
In a world like today every second person I met has broken me
you were always like a shadow not only because you are always there
but also because a shadow gives an assurance that there is a light of hope somewhere nearby
You are my hope and I'll always follow you in every uncertainties of my life
and whenever you need me girl, I'll be there ! :)