Being Woman !

For anyone who is going to drop reading this assuming it to be just another article based on gender equality, let me give you a better reason for not reading it. It is not even a bit about gender equality because the fact is that this very term is a myth. It would take years if we try to fill the gap that has spawned over centuries. So this is not about Him v/s Her, its only about her. Now mister if you want, you can skip reading this and do some of your important works or even you feel a bit out of space here, I would suggest reading and not clicking the cross.

  

Let us ponder over what is Being Woman?

• It is being the apple of eyes of the family.
• It is being the helping daughter that kneads dough when the mother is unwell.
• It is being the greedy sister that marks raksha bandhan on calendar even before birthdays.
• It is being the delicate dancer that sways by the music of devotion.
• It is being the explorer of the right color all over the wardrobe only to end up picking pink.
• It is being the charm of every party.
• It is being the honor of having the door held open and chair pulled out.
• It is being the harbinger of selfless hugs.
• It is being the everyday tourist to shopping complexes.
• It is being the birth right of being right.
• It is being the phenomenon of mood swings
• It is being all this and much more, It is being the carrier of life !

Let us flip the coin now, why is most of the important works that run the economy are believed to be the responsibility of a man, he may make life easier but she makes the life. Sadly most of the times her life becomes a never ending struggle of survival for some and a regret of lost dreams for others. A woman's work is not considered important because that is something that has to be done, she was born to do the daily chores, clean the household and cook food isn't it? There is nothing to be mentioned or appreciated, but there are somethings that need to be reminded again and again,

• It is not just being a woman..... It is being the epitome of endurance.

Her entire life is a pain hidden beneath the layers of make up and colorful dresses. Funny was not the list that I made above, funny is the line that comes now... 

Do you really know what is being a woman?

• It is being the bearer of the pain and still being called the weaker sex !

Now, before you think that I am a hopeless misandrist, I should give a statement that I never said that either of the species is unimportant. Men and women complete each other, similarly I am not in an opinion that this society can anyhow work without involvement and efforts of a man but mister somewhere between getting up in the morning and going to bed again in night, at least one woman would surely have given her best effort to make things perfect for you. Respect her !!

कभी किलकारी बन कर आँगन में गूँज गयी

कभी ज़िम्मेदारी बन कर आँगन से दूर गयी

अम्मा की लाडली कभी आग से खेल गयी

बाबा की गुड़िया जाने क्या क्या झेल गयी

कभी हिना के रंग सी हाँथों पे खिल गयी

कभी के अंधेरों से लड़ती मिटटी में मिल गयी 

कभी लहरों से झगड़ती किनारे पे डेह गयी

कभी एक शिकायत सी तकिये पे बह गयी

Picture credits : https://www.facebook.com/puneet.vivid !

Things to do - 1) Do nothing.. 2) keep doing it !

Lets take a leave from our busy schedule and give some time to ourself, stand in front of the mirror and talk. Without worrying about the smudged mascara or that awful mark on your pretty face because of a stupid pimple that couldn't wait to erupt, try just talking. Instead of looking at you try to look in you. See, smile, speak, scream !!  You'v just had a day full of friends and foes like any other day. Talking, thinking, running from one place to another, being with someone and not being with someone. Exhausting ! Isn't it ? Now is the time to enjoy this company of your own. Bring some peace to your mind.
Try and talk face to face, you wouldn't lie to yourself. You can shower flying kisses to the person you see for how amazing they are or you can tell them how miserable they make your life sometimes, in any case its all coming back to you !! Unlike they say it is not called being alone, it is called transcribing your relation with yourself. Tired of the worldly issues and drama, this is when you may rediscover yourself. When you are happy with the alliance you have with yourself, only then can you build up good connections with others and guess what- the world wants you to be happy !

Next on list : do something that makes you really happy read, write, sing, dance, walk, sleep or just breathe !

You are on a leave, make the most of it.

A note !

Shreya,
you are my lifeline and sometimes my life savior
I can confess before you exactly what I feel
Because you hug me more securely every time we meet
because you can always find something appreciable in the most dumbest thing I do
because u'r always ready to listen to the never ending stories of my highs and lows
because I love watching people being jealous of our enduring bond
because you never let me feel lonely in my slough of despond
because you make me feel special by saying u can't afford to loose me
because you chain me up in your love yet you set me free
because you make sure that my reason to smile is always just a call away 
You are like a mirror to me and I see the exact me in your eyes
No biases no opinions..
In a world like today every second person I met has broken me
you were always like a shadow not only because you are always there
but also because a shadow gives an assurance that there is a light of hope somewhere nearby
You are my hope and I'll always follow you in every uncertainties of my life
and whenever you need me girl, I'll be there ! :)

Pictures talk !

Steal a smile whenever possible, make a wish, the world is all good and you deserve nothing less than being happy !
*pictures from tumblr *

and when she'll get up, she won't find her wings !

And she thought she is safe somewhere. Of course then, she was an idiot. She'll either die or maybe she'll survive but will she be able to live now? Is life just measured by breathe count? I assume the nation will raise its voice again, protest marches, table banging in parliament but what if they'r tired, what if they have given up, given up to this way of living of waking everyday to a new morning news of another female fool who thought she could breathe freely in this country, then maybe the newspapers would start up a new column or a page called The Rapes Of India. Her cries of pain will eventually evaporate into nothing.

Right from the day she was born he was mightier, stronger and the one who has to carry the world forward and she was weaker, delicate, unsubstantial. If this is what has to happen then female foeticide would be better option. Its better not to let a plant shoot up and dream of touching the sky if it'll be slaughtered anyway.

Today it is not me writing this, it is every she speaking to you, every she who feels herself trapped in an unending tunnel with no ray of light at end, every she you talk of, every she you objectify, every she you try to grope in public transport, every she you whistle at in the corner of street, every she who tries to cover up herself but never is able to hide, every she whose eyes carries a fear of your eyes, every she who curses God for giving her this life, every she who had wings and every she you did not let fly.

My 'LyricsFavouriteSongs"- Part 2 !!

Hello everyone
I am back with yet another list of my lyrics favorite songs. Actually this is an endless list and somehow ranking these songs is something that I can never successfully do. There are so many songs worth mentioning that I would get tired but will not be able to end. I bring to you this set of another awesome lyrics !!

• Tujhse naraaz nahi zindagi- Maasoom

This track is a number that has been one of the most wonderful expression of pain and struggle in human life. An amazing saga by R D Burman sir and Gulzaar sir ! This is one of those songs that you can imagine playing in the background of your life almost everyday.

जीने के लिए सोचा ही नहीं दर्द सँभालने होंगे

मु स्कुराये तो मुस्कुराने के क़र्ज़ उतारने होंगे

मुस्कुराऊ कभी तो लगता है

जैसे होंठो पे क़र्ज़ रखा है

• Madno - Lamhaa

 I guess I shouldn't have mentioned this song because I cannot end appreciating it. Each and every line carries within it a wave of emotions and you are left in awe as to how did the lyricist manage to write such a beautiful thing. So many incredible writs tied up in one song brilliantly penned by Sayeed Qadri.

मैं हूँ शब् तू सुबह, दोनों जुड़ के जुदा

मैं हूँ लब तू दुआ, दोनों जुड़ के जुदा !!

 What come next is something I'll never be able to praise enough.

कई ख्वाब दिल तुझको लेकर सजाये

पर खौफ ये भी कहीं पर सताए 

गर ये भी टूटे तो फिर होगा क्या रे

मुझे रास आती हैं खुशियाँ कहाँ रे 

This is just too beautiful, so well scripted, with judicious use of the "anti words" and a soothing music. Though the song has been placed in a "sad" genre but for me its a source of happiness due to the unbelievably awesome lyrics .

• Tarkeebein- Band baaja baraat

Another well crafted song, the metaphors used in this song are so refreshing and different. Its a total our generation kind of song. Take for example

हम कल से कल निबटेंगे जो होगा देख लेंगे

हम टस से मस न होंगे जो होगा देख लेंगे 

ठन्डे पड़े जो हौंसले सेंक लेंगे

चढ़ते सूरज को छु कर सेंक लेंगे  

OR the best one

बचपन से ताना सुनते हैं मत समझो लाइफ इस इजी 

इतनी भी क्या है जल्दी थोडा सा टेक ईट इजी 

माना फ्यूचर से उम्मीदें  तो लगी हैं

क्यूँ ना जिए जो आज में ज़िन्दगी है 

टेंशन वेंशन क्या है बस माथे पे बल होते हैं

बेपरवाह मुस्कानों से ही मसले हल होते हैं

It carries bundles of optimism in it. Neither any difficult words, nor a deep meaning yet gives you a fabulous message, topped up by witty comparisons .Trust me this song is a secret to a tension free life. :P

• Phir se ud chala - Rockstar

My list cannot end without the mention of two magicians " A R Rehmaan" sir and "Mohit chauhan". This is a creation where both of them have waved their magic wands and let this wonderful creation come alive, Irshaad kaamil's lyrics too are in sync. A musical treat indeed. 

मिटटी जैसे सपने कितना भी पलकों से झाडो फिर आ जाते हैं

कितने सारे सपने क्या कहूं किस तरह मैंने छोड़े हैं तोड़े हैं 

The beauty of song lies in the way it brings to you the reality of human life.

किसी मंज़र पे मैं रुका नहीं

कभी खुद से भी मैं मिला नहीं 

ये गिला तो है मैं खफा नहीं 

In our busy lives where we are so focused on achieving the goals of life that we forget to stop and take a look at ourselves. And someday we realize that while we were busy climbing the stairs of success we left the real us somewhere below and then it would be hard to go down. So I'd want all of you to take some downtime for yourself everyday, this is your one life, enjoy it !

• Rehna tu- Delhi 6

Wound around the hook created by the very first line "रहना तू है जैसा तू थोडा सा दर्द तू थोडा सुकून ", the whole songs make you feel the essence of a world of selfless love where pain and gain does not exist. It is the mere presence of the beloved ones that matters. Sir A R Rehmaan's highly imaginative lines along with his own scintillating voice makes this song a must mention here. His sheer audacity with the words is commendable.

 थोडा सा रेशम तू हमदम थोडा सा खुरदुरा 

कभी दौड़ जाए या लड़ जाए या खुशबू से भरा

तुझे बदलना ना चहु रत्ती भर भी सनम

बिना सजावट मिलावट ना ज्यादा ना ही कम 

I end up today's list here. Enjoy these songs and do comment below about how you liked them. Also I'd love to know more of your favorite songs. Have a great day !!

Their names said it !

~~ हर आहट तेरे आने की दस्तक लगती रही

चाँद भी तेरे इंतज़ार में आसमान से चला गया~~

Staring through the window for past three hours, the glass started appearing hazy but the view across it remained the same. The street preceding her apartment , as busy as ever seemed deserted to her. Drinking a glass of water, she tried to explain herself every possible reason as to why couldn't  he show up.

" Maybe he has actually left and wont come, or maybe he is there on his way, stuck in heavy traffic, he loves surprising me, I must wait."

The flickering mind of a human and the hopelessly hopeful heart of a girl, she decided to call him once more but got the same recorded heart breaking answer.

"The number you are trying to reach is switched off. Please try again later. "

With a sinking heart she opened up her diary to a page that had a letter written by her almost a month ago and a photograph.

Dear  

Amber,

I have lived in this city for some three years but its only after you came here, I feel I belong to this place . I never believed that the sunset on Juhu beach was any different from what I saw from my terrace until one day you took me there, that day with the light getting dimmer I could see more and more into my own heart and believe .With my shadow coalescing right into yours  I wanted that moment to freeze there and then. You've made me learn to smile at every little thing around and now I do because you say that makes me look prettier. I used to hate surprises and you love astonishing me with your plans.. "plans of happiness" as you call them. I also used to hate planning and like every other birthday I had planned a lot nothing about how would I spend the day but right with zero hour you made me  celebrate it. That day looking at you I thought to myself about how much you make me happy, weather you know it or not. You gifted me this diary to write down everything that is somewhere inside me because I don't speak a lot. I have written a lot since then but nothing suffices enough to say what I feel about you.

~~ रास्ते बिखर जाते हैं रास्तों में 

खो गए हैं हम तेरे दिल की राह नहीं मिलती ~~

I've thought a lot about confessing this to you, like a many times but I am scared of not ending up with you, I am scared that you would go someday leaving me alone here in this city. I have started loving surprises as long as you are the one who has planned it. I have also started planning . On this new years I've planned of giving you back this diary, to let you get acquainted with what I'v dreamt about us. Its a beautiful dream and I don't want to get up. I am scared of what you said about our names the other day, I am scared that  we don't belong together. 

Leher

With the strike of 12 o clock when the whole world stepped out into the new year she pulled her blanket over her face and with another letter under her pillow she went to sleep to come out of the dream.

Dear Leher

I will never be able to express in words what these three months have given to me , so many good friends , a wonderful experience of living and loving this city and of course  the memories  that you gave me. I know you love writing and that is why I am giving you this last message in written. Since my project has completed I'll be leaving  for London on 31st December. I know you had plans for the new year but I am really sorry I have to leave on that very day. Stay as charming as you are and have a great year ahead.

Amber

~~ हम बयान कर देते हाल-ऐ-दिल तुम्हे 

इस नज़र को एक नज़र तुम मिल तो जाते ~~