Plan some plans !

We make plans. Most of them just turn out to be things written in ink on tiny bits of papers kept and forgotten in some old books while the other lucky ones are those that are executed. Making plans is easy, making good plans is difficult and making plans that will actually work is arduous. Still we make plans because that is how we do the least we can do to decide what our tomorrow would be like. We plan because random ramblings do not necessary may take us to our destination, we have to map a way to land up there and most importantly we plan because planning is free of cost. We take utmost care in making those plans because they are supposed to give us what we want but sadly destiny batters our plans. This does not happen because our plan was wrong but because some times what we want is not what we need. The funny thing about destiny is that it does not take in account our plans. It’s painful how our plans slip out of our fists however hard we try to hold them. They fail.

Life is what happens while we were busy making other plans. Life moves on and drags us along with it. However badly we try to stick to a today, it becomes a yesterday in less than twenty four hours. Sooner or later what we got to do is turn our back to the failures and make another plan to be happy. And hey, why worry when you can always switch to plan B.

An old write up ! A beautiful memory !

One day while flipping back the book of memories
I'll come across a picture like this
and I'll stop !!
A fresh blood will be pumped into the veins of a dormant life
the giggles , the chuckles will fill the silence of surrounding
Vivid and Vital !!

The baggage of loneliness will seem lighter

all of the sudden..

I'll smile into nothingness..

peeping back to those smiles, those amazing days, those awsum people

the glimpses of that warm love will fill the voids

And however hard I'll try to avert..

a tear will trickle down to complete my smile !!

Happy diwali

May this Diwali bring good fortune and lot of happiness in everyone's life. Have a great festival !!
Stay safe and have lots of fun !!

PS: I have not been able to write anything lately but I'll be back soon ! Miss you all !

Take your time !

The only better healer than time is more time !!
There are times we feel bad about the things that had happened and our mind is filled up by somber shades and sunlit patches of memories and remains of what once appeared to be a perfect semblance of  everything true and right . To some extent we are successful in pushing away the past but the fact remains that anyone who has ever touched our life has left their fingerprints on the sands which will need the tides of time to wash them off. For every time when we felt that the everything just fell apart we kept a record but why did we not notice the tiny little reasons of happiness scattered all around us in the smiling flower or the color of sunset. The problem arises when we do not realize that we are more blessed than suffered and this is why we fail to find the most sought after "peace of mind".

There is no defined period you may need to shun the past and move on. It will take time or maybe the entire life time but it starts right when you really decide to pluck away the hanging dewdrops to memoirs. We try to desiccate the part of  our mind which still remembers the conversations and that togetherness  and eventually it happens. That was a false place where you did not belong, you thought the world is all good but Wake up Alice, it was just a wonderland !

Forgive and forget ! Easier to preach than to practice, Better to practice than preach !!

To define forgiveness is easy but to understand is formidable. Psychologist generally define forgiveness as a conscious, deliberate decision to release feelings of resentment or vengeance toward a person who has harmed you regardless of weather they actually deserve your forgiveness.

Sometimes we think that it does not matter if the person deserves to be forgiven or not because what matters is if they are actually seeking for it or not. Forgiveness is called an act for self, to help you put your mind at ease, to help you come out of the stress you'v been carrying around, to make you feel light. Forgiving is hard and forgetting is harder, but the more you think about it the more gross your mind gets. Is it really that difficult to step away from the path of thorns to take a shade under a tree that takes nothing in return?

Lets try to split up the words - they say "for giving" and "for getting". The words say it all - it is to give and get in return. Let's not wait for them to apologize, let's bless them and get our mental peace back. That would fetch us the long lost smile that was just there waiting to see the world through our eyes. The forgetting part may take time but then time is an excellent healer.

कुछ इस तरह हमने ज़िन्दगी को आसान कर दिया

किसी से माफ़ी मांग ली और किसी को माफ़ कर दिया 

Also, I am not in favor of taking revenges because then you go to bed plotting, and all you are left with is those memories that you don't want to come back to you, forgetting is optional but forgiving is fulfilling.
Still if they start to come back in your head to snatch away your happiness, speak aloud :
You cannot steal my sunrises.
Today you are just a past tense !

PS : kar ke dekho accha lagta hai !! :P

Being Woman !

For anyone who is going to drop reading this assuming it to be just another article based on gender equality, let me give you a better reason for not reading it. It is not even a bit about gender equality because the fact is that this very term is a myth. It would take years if we try to fill the gap that has spawned over centuries. So this is not about Him v/s Her, its only about her. Now mister if you want, you can skip reading this and do some of your important works or even you feel a bit out of space here, I would suggest reading and not clicking the cross.

  

Let us ponder over what is Being Woman?

• It is being the apple of eyes of the family.
• It is being the helping daughter that kneads dough when the mother is unwell.
• It is being the greedy sister that marks raksha bandhan on calendar even before birthdays.
• It is being the delicate dancer that sways by the music of devotion.
• It is being the explorer of the right color all over the wardrobe only to end up picking pink.
• It is being the charm of every party.
• It is being the honor of having the door held open and chair pulled out.
• It is being the harbinger of selfless hugs.
• It is being the everyday tourist to shopping complexes.
• It is being the birth right of being right.
• It is being the phenomenon of mood swings
• It is being all this and much more, It is being the carrier of life !

Let us flip the coin now, why is most of the important works that run the economy are believed to be the responsibility of a man, he may make life easier but she makes the life. Sadly most of the times her life becomes a never ending struggle of survival for some and a regret of lost dreams for others. A woman's work is not considered important because that is something that has to be done, she was born to do the daily chores, clean the household and cook food isn't it? There is nothing to be mentioned or appreciated, but there are somethings that need to be reminded again and again,

• It is not just being a woman..... It is being the epitome of endurance.

Her entire life is a pain hidden beneath the layers of make up and colorful dresses. Funny was not the list that I made above, funny is the line that comes now... 

Do you really know what is being a woman?

• It is being the bearer of the pain and still being called the weaker sex !

Now, before you think that I am a hopeless misandrist, I should give a statement that I never said that either of the species is unimportant. Men and women complete each other, similarly I am not in an opinion that this society can anyhow work without involvement and efforts of a man but mister somewhere between getting up in the morning and going to bed again in night, at least one woman would surely have given her best effort to make things perfect for you. Respect her !!

कभी किलकारी बन कर आँगन में गूँज गयी

कभी ज़िम्मेदारी बन कर आँगन से दूर गयी

अम्मा की लाडली कभी आग से खेल गयी

बाबा की गुड़िया जाने क्या क्या झेल गयी

कभी हिना के रंग सी हाँथों पे खिल गयी

कभी के अंधेरों से लड़ती मिटटी में मिल गयी 

कभी लहरों से झगड़ती किनारे पे डेह गयी

कभी एक शिकायत सी तकिये पे बह गयी

Picture credits : https://www.facebook.com/puneet.vivid !

Things to do - 1) Do nothing.. 2) keep doing it !

Lets take a leave from our busy schedule and give some time to ourself, stand in front of the mirror and talk. Without worrying about the smudged mascara or that awful mark on your pretty face because of a stupid pimple that couldn't wait to erupt, try just talking. Instead of looking at you try to look in you. See, smile, speak, scream !!  You'v just had a day full of friends and foes like any other day. Talking, thinking, running from one place to another, being with someone and not being with someone. Exhausting ! Isn't it ? Now is the time to enjoy this company of your own. Bring some peace to your mind.
Try and talk face to face, you wouldn't lie to yourself. You can shower flying kisses to the person you see for how amazing they are or you can tell them how miserable they make your life sometimes, in any case its all coming back to you !! Unlike they say it is not called being alone, it is called transcribing your relation with yourself. Tired of the worldly issues and drama, this is when you may rediscover yourself. When you are happy with the alliance you have with yourself, only then can you build up good connections with others and guess what- the world wants you to be happy !

Next on list : do something that makes you really happy read, write, sing, dance, walk, sleep or just breathe !

You are on a leave, make the most of it.